Today morning I got a phone call from a distant cousin of mine. After the general formalities of how do you do and the rest, she asked me about my future plans. When I told her about my plans of taking a LLB course for 5 years and then specialising in environmental law, she exclaimed in horror as if someone have just announced that she is going to die within a few minutes. her point was when am I going to get married if I study for so long!
Surprising isn't it? And still women of this society complain of male supremacy, fight for women rights. Do they really have the right to do so? a woman who can't think anything beyond getting married and adding to the useless population of India, have no right to complain of the patriarchal society.
I think the lower class women are much more independent and self sufficient. Maybe they don't have the sugar coating of morals and etiquette but they are the bread earners of their family. Unlike the so called educated middle class women they don't ask for money from their husbands.
Why shouldn't the men declare themselves to be superior? It is them who work day in and day out to bring the hard earned money and the wives just spend it on kitty parties and shopping.
Though we declare ourselves to be in the age of mini skirts, the range of a women is still to the backyard. They only admire women like Kalpana Chawla and Sunita Williams from a distance because they are 'extraordinary'. Really what a society we live in where women at the same time complain about male supremacy but are not willing to stand superior to men.Who have stopped them from taking up jobs and leading an interesting life where they can declare themselves as equals to men?
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
9 comments:
as long as there are girls like you who can understand and work for the betterment of their community ,, the world will always remain a better place to live in ,the betterment of women should always be taken care of as they are the ones who are mothers to some,daughters to some and wives and sisters to the rest ,,they deserve all the happiness just like men ,,in this world ,,,,,,,,nobody has got the right to hurt them and crush them,,,so go ahead and pursue your dreams,,,,,,who knows there is another kiran bedi growing up in you who has done so much for us..god bless you
As a gal I feel there is certainly nothing wrong with getting married so long it doesn't hamper your progress in life. I am totally against those men and those families who think that they can get their sons married to produce future generations and treat their daughters-in-law as scum cause they are living of their son's money.
In a society where a girl is considered of marriageable age at 21, I might as well fall into that category but I was surprised to find many ladies and their respective sons who found me intimidating just because I had dreams of making it big in my life. I feel nothing but pity for such kind of people who are so narrow-minded when it comes to someone else's daughter yet expect the moon when it concerns their own daughter.
But being an optimistic I know all hope is not lost because I have even had the oppurtunity to come across men who have given every possible freedom to their wives to pursue their dreams and ambition. Such kind of men are small in number and hard to find but may their flock increase!
i..definitely..support your views...it really..shows..a different side..of..the so-called.."modern women" of our country..
being a part of this..women folk..i personally...feel..pitty abt this..
i feel..the main reason..behind such a way of thinking..is nothing but..the..pampered..lifestyle of most of the young women in our country..moreover..d general "rule"..of our country that the last destination of a girl is gettin married..is also...accelerating such thoughts among girls..
i do...feel..dat its a very..nice act on your part to raise such a topic..
thank you..
nothing is like compulsory to a gal nowadays.......but what should change is the outlook of modern women....is it only jobs which makes a women successful and if so our mom and grandmothers are all big losers...this theory cannot be right...true success lies in doing what you want to do and doing it in a impressive manner...Sriranjini has rightly pointed out that some people like her cousin might comment something like that but trust me it is not only for gals( i heard dat myself from my parents when dey heard of my plans).. what gals should do is stop being a cry baby and do what they really want to.. Its not always about the exceptional as the author commented but the average which matters..thanks sriranjini about the insight
Mr. anonymous you didn't get my point. its sad that you have not read my post with perfect attention. My point was that a woman not takin up job and thinking themselves to be superior is incorrect. To stand equal to men they should act equal to men. The increasing women oppresion in our society is due to women themselves. They don't want to improve and noone can help them if they themselves are indifferent.
Thank you folks. I never expected such a good reponse from you all. Keep your comments flowing!!
well we all are in a transition period.we are coming ot of the "burqa" age and stepping in to the "mini or micro mini skirt" age.so you have to give the required time thats needed for every transition like this.you just can't hope or ask the world to change as you like.probably five or six decades down the line this might not be an issue then.but i can suggest you or rather tell you that you have to fight your way through this and live your dreams.this is what we call life.its a struggle from the day we were born till the day our soul leaves our body.so u need to give time to these kind of issues.people from different generations aree living together and we can't expect everyone to have the same kind of mindset.
Cheers!
Sriranjani,
I wonder if you have watched the movie Monalisa Smile.
I think that you will find it very interesting and thought provoking.
I read your post. It was screaming out your anger, I perceived. There is only onething I would like to say in this matter, for the others have already mentioned a lot of important things.
I would ask you to take up the responsibility and not just wait for some one else to do it for you. You are gifted and so are all of us who can differentiate between what is right and what is wrong. But it will be wrong on our part, and definitely a betrayal to to God who has gifted us with this ability, if we just watch and lament. You need to take up the flag, and so must all other women who are in their right senses to see that they are being wronged. You must lead and must liberate those who are ignorant or incapable of helping themelves out of this situation.
Here I would like to stress thatI am against any revolution. For revolution always brings loss. And you are fighting for salvation. Mere feminist movements will never suffice. The idea must reach to every women who are lost.
But where shall you begin?
Begin from yourself and then proceed to those around you who need your help. Try to bring about a difference in their lives. I think that you are aware of the story about a man picking up star fishes from a beach and throwing them in to the sea. When another man asked him why he was occupying himself with such pointless work, seeing that he will not be able to save a cosiderable number of fishes, the good man picked up another fish and threw it into the sea and said, "Well, I just saved that one."
Always think that you were chosen for this job and if you cannot find a way then no one can.
Good luck and regards,
Shubhabrata
Dear Sriranjani,
I see that a certain "Sayantani" has already posted a comment on this post of yours. Well, it's definitely good to see that you look around your world with a different view than other counterparts of our society. Keep observing, reflecting and writing!
With regards
Sayantani Ghosh
Post a Comment